Oh my, I am having issues... 2 weeks now and I have been dating the same man. And it looks like week 3 will have me doing the same.. the question is why?
The answer to the question can probably be assumed.. I like him? But, the truth is, I am not sure what I like. I only know this guy is not like any other man I have ever dated, and given my track record, this could be a good thing. Two bad marriages and an almost bad marriage have taught me one thing - and that is that I need to change my habits and date someone out of my usual type. Which brings me to Mr B (the Set-up Man). As you might recall, this man was a blind date set up for me by a woman I met once. And he is nice! A part of me wants to say too nice, but can someone be too nice? Is that like too rich? or too beautiful?
Mr. B is a gentleman.. almost a total gentleman. His hello kiss is a bit over the top, though he is getting the idea that holding back a bit at the initial greeting can be a good thing... The good night kiss, well is no where close to chaste - in fact, it is pretty hot! He brings flowers, coffee, wine, and other small gifts each time he arrives to pick me up for a date. He bought me a motorcycle helmet so I can ride with him, and if I say something interests me, he makes it happen - trip to DC, dinner and a movie, prices on new tires, an ice wine.. He opens car doors! It's a bit overwhelming, but nothing to complain about I am sure... that said, I don't have a clue as to how to handle this! Oh, and did I mention that he's an Italian? and he likes to cook ... though I have not yet had dinner at his place, or mine! Most surprising - and no one is more surprised than I am: I am holding out... sending him home... what is THAT all about!?
Is it easier to date the bad guys? The wrong guys? Is it safer to protect oneself that way? My friends tell me to float with this.. to just enjoy it.. and I do like it. Really! It just feels a bit like, well, like living on Mars...
~A. Tan Gledmess
The answer to the question can probably be assumed.. I like him? But, the truth is, I am not sure what I like. I only know this guy is not like any other man I have ever dated, and given my track record, this could be a good thing. Two bad marriages and an almost bad marriage have taught me one thing - and that is that I need to change my habits and date someone out of my usual type. Which brings me to Mr B (the Set-up Man). As you might recall, this man was a blind date set up for me by a woman I met once. And he is nice! A part of me wants to say too nice, but can someone be too nice? Is that like too rich? or too beautiful?Mr. B is a gentleman.. almost a total gentleman. His hello kiss is a bit over the top, though he is getting the idea that holding back a bit at the initial greeting can be a good thing... The good night kiss, well Is it easier to date the bad guys? The wrong guys? Is it safer to protect oneself that way? My friends tell me to float with this.. to just enjoy it.. and I do like it. Really! It just feels a bit like, well, like living on Mars...
~A. Tan Gledmess
Ride the wave, Kim...
ReplyDeleteWhen you look at this life of action—the growing tree, the bird on the wing, the flowing river, the movement of the clouds, of lightning, of machines, the action of the waves upon the shore—then you see, do you not, that life itself is action, endless action that has no beginning and no end. It is something that is everlastingly in movement, and it is the universe, God, bliss, reality. But we reduce the vast action of life to our own petty little action in life, and ask what we should do, or follow some book, some system.
~ Krishnamurti, Bombay 1958
interesting quote.. will require some thinking too
ReplyDeleteSo, by saying it's like living on Mars, does this mean that you are…content? That, btw, CAN be a good thing ;-) Contentment doesn't always eqal boredom.
ReplyDeleteyou know, the contentment question is a good one, and now - in week 3 - I have to say no.. a bit freaked out. Mars is a beautiful planet but a bit short on air... one can begin to feel a little suffocated and this 'affair' is beginning to head that direction - in fact, it headed there quickly today when he appeared where I was.. look for the rest of the story in the next blog ;)
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