The Vegan Lawyer..

And what is wrong with this title? Vegan? Lawyer? Somehow I always envision a lawyer as  a carnivore, a predator, a meat eater!

STM's profile was somewhat on the light side. He'd rather not state his income (and after one date, I am apt to believe it is not much), and he is " as much at home in an art gallery as on a hiking trail." I have to say I am not believing that so much either, given the beanie he wears. Beatniks don't usually camp or hike. And, he's only been a vegan for a short time, so he still wears leather shoes and belt.. can't leap too far too fast when you have already spent a number of years on the "10 yard line".. and you have love that - football metaphors from a man who does NOT watch football.

We meet online, and agree to a Sunday evening coffee date, which does turn into a lite fare evening at a little place downtown.. did I mention he does not drink as well?? So, here we are.. I order meat and wine, he orders tea and salad. No cheese, please. Jeesh! But hey, I am trying to drop my shallow thinking and he is, after all, an attorney. I appear to be moving up the food chain. I need to give this a chance... did I mention he never smiled? Not once. Who doesn't smile? I am funny, you know!
 
But, hey, that's not all.. he is also a Quaker... I do wonder about that as Quakers "do not swear oaths" ..don't lawyers have to swear an oath?

Moving on ... date 2 or real date 1; call it what you wish.. remember, I am trying to be fair here.. 
Dinner @ Subway: $12.00
Movie @ Cheap Seats: $7.00
Kiss goodnight: YUCK! 

I'm going back to my normal, shallow self. It's safer that way.

~A. Tan Gledmess

ps: STM stands for Stair Master.. gotta love a guy with a streak of creativity.. and no, I did not ask!

4 Weeks Later...

And I am still a single woman. I would (honestly) like to be surprised by this, but alas, I am not. On the one hand, I am pretty sure that I am still not ready .. not ready to trust my own judgement, much less the judgement of a guy. Secondly, I am pretty sure that the men I am running into these days are more broken than I feel. And, I am not settling for whoever might like/love me. I need to love him, and love him madly. My mother suggests that "at this age" I might need to understand that men are not perfect and that I will not find the perfect man", but I do insist that at this age, I am entitled to the man who is perfect for me. Why settle for less?

Onward and forward we go... dating adventures.. I met the Navy guy earlier this month. We seemed to hit it off.. three dinner dates later, he is Silent Sam. Suddenly I do get an email and he apologizes for "breaking up" via email.. this "relationship is not working for him". I have to admit I am a bit stumped, and I am also pretty sure (since we had the serial dating conversation) that he was/is dating others and simply found someone he liked better.. or conversely was scared of really making a connection with me. Either way, in my mind, three dinner dates does not a relationship make, even when sex is involved. I mean, come on, we are all grownups who grew up in the Age of Aquarius! And, in my gracious response to his break up email, I said so. Thanks for playing.

What is it with my generation? Are we so afraid of broken hearts and broken bank accounts that being in a relationship is unthinkable? And if this is true, why are dating sites so jam packed with guys saying they want a "serious relationship"?

I'm pretty sure women don't lie....

~A. Tan Gledmess